Stories come to me, from the departed, needing to be told. Lived experiences seep thru my skin demanding equal time, while a dreamy blue horizon quietly beckons.
The time for stillness has passed.
I will answer the calling. See you there.
the most unsettling thing about having surgery (besides having surgery) is entering the operating theatre. the performance space where improv, and scene study take on inconceivable authority. on this stage comedy and tragedy morph into physical beings, while your soul kicks a soft shoe for redemption.
walking toward the operating room, i bypass two people standing sentry at the door. despite my best efforts to engage they refuse to make eye contact, acknowledge a presence or in any way affirm my humanity. should it go wrong, their job is to collect my earthly remains.
my doctor’s team (all women) work to create an atmosphere of professionalism, humor and kindness. if not for the setting and attire many would assume an ancient mystic ritual were taking place, to most we probably resemble a coven.
the team helps me onto the operating table, their choreography complex. who knew they heated the table? i am happy to feel warmth. strangely comfy, i long for sleep.
a door opens and in walks my surgeon, thankfully she is a rock star. her “tough love” tactics are why we are here. if i am to survive this day it is because of her skill and caring; because of the women she has bought together to minister to me. i breathe deeply as they begin, for a time these women are custodians of my heart. the hours pass and we are one. on this table i matter. the alchemy of our connection matters. all that i am affirmed.
Even though many advocates of feminist politics are angered by Sandberg’s message, the truth is that alone, individually she was no threat to feminist movement. Had the conservative white male dominated world of mass media and advertising not chosen to hype her image, this influential woman would not be known to most folks. It is this patriarchal male dominated re-framing of feminism, which uses the body and personal success of Sheryl Sandberg, that is most disturbing and yes threatening to the future of visionary feminist movement. The model Sandberg represents is all about how women can participate and ‘run the world.’ But of course the kind of world we would be running is never defined. It sounds at times like benevolent patriarchal imperialism. This is the reason it seemed essential for feminist thinkers to respond critically, not just to Sandberg and her work, but to the conservative white male patriarchy that is using her to let the world know what kind of woman partner is acceptable among elites, both in the home and in the workplace. Feminism is just the screen masking this reframing.
This quote is from her phenomenal essay Dig Deep: Beyond Lean In on The Feminist Wire. I think she pointed out something really important that helps move past individualistic critique on Lean In to again, an institutional/systems view with an intersectional lens. It’s about Sheryl Sandberg but it’s about more than her. It’s a critical essay especially in the age of neoliberal, 1%, mainstream feminism. The essay gets into race/class and reveals how a lot of respectability politics and bootstrap theory is involved in this corporate reshaping of feminism. MUST READ.(via gradientlair)